marriage checklist – or, why a long engagement is a good thing.
This is a surfing site, basically, so that’s where the pillars are sunk – the foundations. Our roots are deep.
– are a beautiful thing and in the eyes and mouths of some, if it isn’t four dozen Sydney Finest on first sitting then you are not being true to yourself.
It’s a training exercise for her so that all will be well for all those married years to come. Because she has your ring. Your promise.
You are engaged.
So tonight you travel to an exceptional restaurant on the Harbour – by the Bridge, just a block from the Hotel. A warm summer evening, a light north-westerly and a hint of good whitewater around North Head from the hotel bedroom window.
This is where the training kicks in.
You take the menu offered and go straight to entree / seafood / oysters – and you order four dozen before the waiter has shaken out the napkins. He defers immediate service so you ask him again. Now he needs his little book, he wants to go away for a while.
So now you tell him. 4 Doz. Quick ! … and flick on the thousand yard stare.
The little woman sits open-mouthed, lost in admiration and a kind of repulsion. This is what lessons do.
He brings the oysters to the table and drops a little rattle on their delivery. Kitchen chatter payback. He smiles, retreats.
Two big plates, two doz per plate. Everybody make room!
Now comes the waiter again to see whether we are ready to order – She has still not opened her menu and you are only six oysters into the pile. Scoop, sip, suck, chew. He asks whether you have chosen from the menu. He is not a surfer …..
A surfer knows that from the first oyster to the last – regardless of the number destined – conversation is forbidden. Distraction is forbidden. Maybe a ‘ pass the pepper ‘ or ‘ pass the lemon ‘ passes muster but little else. Every surfer on the earth has a healed oyster rip on the bottom of his foot. This is why we eat them.
The Gentleman’s Way explained.
Perhaps the next time you take the Fiancee to dinner – and she has as much time to read the menu in quiet contemplation as you do to eat four dozen oysters – she may well tip the glass of Roederer in your direction, whilst so engaged.
If she has learnt the lesson well enough.